Choosing To Be Happy

Every day, every hour, and every minute we are making the choice whether or not we want to be happy.

And yet the ways we have been conditioned over time means that we place the genesis of happiness on some sort of external event (eg. finally getting that “dream job”) or external object (eg. that blonde with the big &*%!).

Where is the wisdom in this?

When does it end?

Do we keep chasing our tails in the hope that FINALLY, when we’re facing death in the face, we’ll look back and be happy with what we’ve accomplished?

Do you really think we’ll be happy then?

Choosing to be happy is the key to our entire existence.

Of the billions of people on the planet, how many do you think have been able to achieve a state of happiness? How many are trying to do that through external means?

Why aren’t more trying to do that through INTERNAL means (our minds) instead?

What separates us from every other animal on the planet is the fact that we have incredible thinking abilities (although sometimes that can be rightly questioned…). Why not use these abilities to…

Choose our reality

We have the capacity to define our reality simply through choosing to change our perspective.

How else do you think someone like Nelson Mandela managed to get through 27 years of imprisonment before returning to lead his country and change people’s lives for the better?

That’s a pretty powerful ability when you really think about it. Yet, how many of us choose to actually use this ability to change our own realities?

So why not choose to be happy NOW?

Not tomorrow.

Not next week.

Just NOW, while you’re reading this.

Smile.

We’ll live longer, have more friends, and enjoy every activity all that much more.

Or, we can continue thinking of ourselves as victims of life and waiting for something to make us happy.

But remember – even lottery winners aren’t happy. After all, why do you think they’re playing to begin with…?

About Adam Wozniak

Adam Wozniak is the founder and writer of Encouragement from a Stranger. He believes in the importance of encouraging people to think, question things, and live life on their own terms. Or something like that... – www.AdamWozniak.com

Comments

  1. Cher says:

    I couldn’t agree MORE, Adam!
    Attitude IS everything .
    Happiness is a choice we make every day & not dependent on external events. Most people don’t get that, unfortunately (esp. for them).
    C.

  2. Adam Wozniak says:

    Thanks for your comment, Cher! :)

  3. Years ago when I was living with my best mate, we spent more time making each other laugh than anything else and I think that it was what sustained us (given we only had enough money to eat 2-minute noodles…)

    Choosing to be happy or positive, even when life gets one down, certainly does have a noticeable effect on one’s life. Optimism is a wonderful thing, if you can hang onto it.

    Also – that song rocks :) I used to have it on a 45 record when I was younger.

  4. Great post, Adam. I wholeheartedly agree. I recently wrote a post about the 8 ingredients that make up a happy person. All the ingredients I list are certainly under the control of the individual. We can choose our attitude, the people in our support networks, how we’ll spend our time, how we treat our bodies… and that shapes our happiness.

    http://blog.healthybalancefitness.com.au/2010/09/what-makes-a-happy-person-8-essential-ingredients/

    I do agree that choosing to be happy is one of “the keys to our entire existence”. The other is making connections with and supporting others – and we are in a much stronger place to do this if we ourselves are happy.

  5. Kim Ong says:

    I look into the mirror every morning and smile to myself into the mirror and tell myself I am better than I think I am. Not being overwhelming and unrealistic (vain) about life, but if I have a choice – I’d choose to be happy than be sad – don’t we all want that?

    Great post, Adam!

  6. Exactly like what I wrote here about “Focusing On Positive Energy”.

    http://blog.geekit.com/2010/10/10/focusing-on-positive-energy/

    Not surprising, many people like to read happy stuff, things that motivate them. Nobody likes to read an angry blog. Great article.

    - Mary

  7. Adam Wozniak says:

    Hi everyone,

    Thanks for all your comments so far! I’m very humbled.

    @Laneth – hey, there’s nothing wrong with 2-minute noodles! Although I suspect Jodie might have something to say about that! :P

    @Jodie – firstly, your thoughts about 2-minute noodles? :P Secondly, “The other [key] is making connections with and supporting others – and we are in a much stronger place to do this if we ourselves are happy.” – nicely said. Couldn’t agree more!

    @Kim – thanks for your comments! By the looks of your website, it looks like you’re a very happy person!

    @Mary – thanks for your comments. And a great point about “angry” blogs.